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September 11, 2013

10 Dating Ideas Almost Nobody Wants To See, Hear, Or Know

Filed under: 10 Ideas, Editorials — Jeff Fitzmyers @ 8:51 pm

Disclaimer: Musings, in general, I have no proof, April Fools…

  • First, give some space and relax:
  • No sex until you see, understand, and accept, their shadow side.¬†Everyone is a package; there are no line item vetoes.
    • Soon tech will be to the point where we can tell our bed at night, “Make me half zebra with iridescent stripes that shed rose petals” and billions of nano bots will have us ready by morning. So we will shroud with increasingly pretty and distracting covers. Learn how to get the heart now — talk about gender identity issues!
    • Conversely, you are having sex with their shadow too. Hmmm… do you have any idea what it looks like? The fangs? The claws? The abject stupid? Beer goggles can’t fix it!!
  • Try not to break item 1 too soon. ūüėČ But…
    • Waiting until everything is known and perfect will doom the species. Even moderation shouldn’t be taken to excess.
  • Partners should bring out the best in each other. Everything we want is already inside of us. Nice, warm and fuzzy, but…
  • Dating sucks because consciousness attracts consciousness, and 90% of us have trouble letting go of baggage, thus, therefore, ipso facto, and a prima facie:¬†duh,¬†we have baggage.
    • If your dates consistently tend to be a !?#*@*@!!, list what you hate about them. 95% chance they are just mirroring your own baggage. So title the list, Things I Don’t Want To, But Might Want To, Change Someday Even Though It’s Definitely All Their Fault. Now pick one and sit with it until you understand it’s facets, and the heat dissipates. Doesn’t mean they are not still !?#*@*@!!’s, just that they are not driving your life off a cliff.
      • Now you don’t have to find a real therapist. Ironic! Because good therapists are rarer than good dates. That’s why a monk lifestyle seems so alluring and sexy.
      • Focus on what you do well. NOT baggage, unless it is in the way. Then, be optimistic! Maybe you only have one piece of baggage? Work though it and see if that was good enough.
  • Consider asking your date, “What do you want?” Be vulnerable first.
    • Defenselessness shows that you are comfortable with yourself and have some courage.
    • Shows you are not just mirroring what you think they want to hear that you think they want you to think you hear… too freaking confusing.
    • Makes people feel safer, and so,¬†lie¬†less.
  • Don’t gossip. Bonding over gossip is fun and easy, but then all you have is a hollow relationship based on disparaging others.
    • And those others will likely find out in seconds, probably from your date, hate your guts, key your car, and forever spread nasty gossip about you.
  • Be kind. Life is challenging. You will probably never see them again, unless you want a crappy relationship, so give them a complement. What ¬†children remember most about parents? If they were kind or not.
  • Men, sorry: women are smarter and more capable than us, in multiple ways.
    • Historically, while we were running around chasing stuff that ran away from us (easy to bond over and rather fun until they chase us back), women were having to raise kids, get along with each other, grow food, make lunch, and be the last defense to marauders. They often let us think we are smarter to save the effort of being in a power struggle they win anyway.
    • Also historically, women had to deal with worrying about us not returning. Was our absence due to the allure of marauding another village’s women? Or were we painfully hobbling home half eaten? Although women tend to like us, this presents them with more work to do: Find another mate, or nurse us until we die from smelly infections, and then find another mate anyway. So, women like it when we return when we say we will return, and give them something valuable. This used to be called survival, now because it’s trivial for women to procure their own protein, this is called romance¬†and it’s more complicated.
    • Men have to adapt: now the chase is to do something that uniquely speaks to a woman’s soul so that they know we are paying attention to them (not too their friends).
  • Women, sorry: We are confused with adapting from primarily protecting you and our children (our genes), to nicely¬†supporting you and your children.
    • Historically “protection” and “nice support”, are mostly mutually exclusive. An effective protector tends to shoot first and ask questions later because empathetic ponderers are super easy to kill, making you and your kids more vulnerable. That’s why there are 10 times more psychopathic males than females.
    • And protectors need to be roaming about looking for trouble to keep battles away from home. But males are still social creatures, yet are often away from the supportive social nexus.
    • So, historically, young males are lonely jerks who need a lot of testosterone to stay alive but then are sexually frustrated and make poor snap decisions. Currently there are more around because war changed from physical, to economic and informational.
    • The old pattern of dealing with stuff was hard to let go of because it’s so alluringly simple:
    • Can I hump it?
      • Yes, then do so. (But don’t bring it home!) Then find something else to encounter.
      • No? Well, can I eat it?
        • Yes, then do so, and bring some back home, stay for a bit, then go out protecting again.
        • No? Well, can I kill it?
          • Yes,¬†then do so. If it’s food, bring it home. Then find something else to encounter.
          • No? Well, umm.. can I hump it?
  • ‚ÄúPower is never granted, only¬†taken‚ÄĚ. Lead the way with grace to receive what you want.

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July 21, 2013

10 Ideas > Writing > Showcase peak moments

Filed under: 10 Ideas, Peak Moments — Jeff Fitzmyers @ 1:22 pm
  1. FAIL! (Dang! By the time I opened this page up, the first idea slipped my mind. Just write it down!)
  2. After a year, publish all these 10 ideas a day lists in an ebook.
  3. Publish my collection of quotes in an eBook. (really, not enough)
  4. Publish some of the art my daughter does in an eBook.
  5. Create a narrative using someone else’s work. (Where’s the¬†compelling story?¬†The only short compeller I have is when I network, I try to ask people right off the bat how I can help them. We are all trying to add value, right? So just be direct and ask. Neat things have happened, but not enough yet to fill a book, especially since I have not written any of them down.)
  6. Run a investment group at middle school using Dr. David Eifrig’s Retirement Trader. Recently closed about 130(?) consecutive (covered call?) trades at a profit. Who can argue with that? (Taking baby steps now.)
  7. Create a  font based on leaves. (Phew, already done)
  8. I already have a movie in my head. If I just sketch out 1 scene per day — 15 mins — I will have a rough draft in a few months. (Lets do it!)
  9. Ahh! One I really like!!! Gather peak moments. Survey people and turn that into posts and a book? (Fun way to meet people too!)
    1. Your favorite accomplishment.
    2. What makes you feel supported.
    3. The scariest thing you overcame and how you did it.
    4. A drawing or phrase  that symbolizes all this.

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July 20, 2013

10 Ideas > A simple way to title similar posts of lists.

Filed under: 10 Ideas — Jeff Fitzmyers @ 11:11 am
  1. Find a way to reproduce the feeling of love and imprint it into a blanket and clothes.
  2. Offer massages that are done by 3 people at once.
  3. A simple way to title similar posts of lists. (done, just use the shortest idea, and if themed, use that as a preface)
  4. Come up with a better way to manage this theme of 10 Ideas A Day. (done, rolled into main blog using a category)
  5. Create ideas by stringing together 4 random words and try to make sense of them.
  6. Start a line of greeting cards suggesting what famous icons at famous moments were really thinking.
  7. A site where people can enter negative phrases and the positive version is emailed back to them.
  8. GMO’s? Fine, I want to plant a seed and grow a house that’s a living tree. With owls and resident geckos. And a lap pool.
  9. I’m looking for a photo of a treehouse and don’t want to deal with copyright. I just want to use the photo and if I make money with it, the owner of the photo is automatically paid. That idea is called Castpoints. I wish it was available now! Better get back to work.

11 year old playing around:

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July 19, 2013

10 Ideas > Mail $5 to a kid

Filed under: 10 Ideas — Jeff Fitzmyers @ 8:42 am
  1. Create a thin hollow backlit plastic wall that is filled with water, different colors and densities of oil, and little motors and shunts that can be moved with a magnet on a stick from the outside.
  2. Tweet a thanks to¬†James Altucher for the inspiring Amazon reviewer Kristine Castagnaro’s comment on Choose Yourself:¬†“I felt like I could be extraordinary.”¬† (done)
  3. Make a site like this! (done)
  4. Somehow follow through on sticking a sticker on the mail box asking for no junk mail. (done, only took 2 years)
  5. Send an idea for uplifting presentation to the leader of Experience Unlimited. (done)
  6. Pool cover made of clear disks about 1 foot in diameter. They have a solar cell and small battery, inflate at night to float, and shine LED’s down. Deflate in the morning
  7. Simple blog for suggesting when to buy top IBD stocks that have just retraced after a breakout. (done, just added a backtest category to this blog)
  8. Cookies that are mainly vegetables.
  9. A very viscous gel that can easily be sculpted into 3D shapes. When a small electric charge is applied, or light, the gel hardens temporarily, or permanently.

Clear wall filled with movable fun

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